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When Your Motherhood Support Group Becomes A Marriage Support Group

Sometimes your local mom group needs more than just potty training advice.

by Samantha Darby

Oct. 30, 2025

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Every local mom Facebook group, every Reddit thread on motherhood, every conversation with a group of women talking about raising kids eventually leads to the same topic — and no, it’s not sleep training. It turns out that when you have a child, you then spend a lot of time with that child’s other parent, and the trials and triumphs of that partnership (whether it’s a marriage or not) can blur into all of your ups and downs of parenting.

In a recent Reddit thread on the subreddit/mommit, one user shared that she was looking for a “new support group” for motherhood after the one she went to quickly became a “marriage support group” instead. The user wrote, “It turns out that the number one difficulty of motherhood for this group of women is their husbands. The group sessions turned into relationship counseling as the women shared the selfish behaviors of their husbands. The word ‘divorce’ began to be used. Mothers crying because they feel like single moms. Parenting was rarely discussed.”