Like most women who are sexually harassed in the workplace, my first encounter with my harasser was not my worst. Like any other kind of manipulative, hostile behavior, sexual harassment is carried out in stages, in which the harasser tests the water and erodes your sense of what a “normal” interaction should look like. This was the case in New York State Governor Andrew Cuomo’s alleged advances towards former aides Lindsey Boylan and Charlotte Bennett. It was also the case with me and the senior manager whose sexual harassment ended in him rubbing his body against mine in full view of my bosses and co-workers, none of whom took action against him.