It was evident to Bachelorette fans that Clare Crawley and Dale Moss were operating at two different speeds when it came to their relationship. Now the couple has officially put the brakes on their blink-and-you-missed-it engagement after only months together.

It was a love train that sped out of the station before Moss even know what hit him — and apparently he had to take back control of his story. “Dale felt that he is not ready for marriage and was not ready to move to Sacramento for Clare. They were making a lot of plans that Dale could not commit to,” a source revealed to E! News about their life out of the spotlight.