So I (18F) started a successful e-commerce (dropshipping) business when I was around late 16/early 17.

It was rough in the beginning but now I’m averaging at bound $12K a month from it. I still plan on going to uni etc but i’m currently on a gap year.

I recently told my parents about it and since I’ve grown up poor and my mum struggled with keeping a job while my dad works abroad I thought i could help pitch in for maybe some rent/utility bills?

I didn’t tell them beforehand because they’re quite old-fashioned/traditional and heavily believe in just having a regular job and working hard from there, I was scared to tell them because of their reaction to me starting a business and making lots from it at a young age.

I think i was kinda scared they were going to think what I was doing was wrong.

The installment of our new place is about $4.9k a month and told my parents that I was willing to pay $4k and they pay the rest and everything else. (food, phones, and the remaining 0.9k). I’m not just doing it for them or me but also trying to do it for my siblings and make sure they have a decent place to call home.

I didn’t really want to pay more in bills as the amount i make from my business can fluctuate and to make sure we can have a place to stay each month i wanted to just pay 4k.

However, my parents were super mad at this and told me I was selfish, disrespectful etc and that all the money I should send to them as I wouldn’t be able to handle it properly. my mum now wants to stop working and so does my dad and i’m scared that they’ll be completely reliant on me.

i still tried to explain to them that i’m still their kid and they shouldn’t be too reliant on me for paying everything. and what would d happen if I suddenly stopped the business or if it didn’t last 5+ yrs? They want me to spend egregious amount on shopping, food, luxuries etc but I still want to invest and keep some to travel during my gap year 8 as able to get into uni and i deferred my offer, 

im quite scared of my parents but i understand where they are coming from. we dont really have alot so i think this amount is kinda crazy to them. i want to get them nice things and help pay rent in a nice area but i don’t think i can afford all of this. i know i should be thankful for my parents for all the yrs they’ve put in but idk it feels weird them wanting to take money from me.