In summary, my 21-year-old daughter (now 22) announced last year that she was engaged to a man, 36, who my wife and I had adopted as a son after his parents passed away. They claim they began dating when she turned 18, but we now know it began much earlier than that, though we didn’t find out about any of this until she was 21, so legally there was not much we could do.

The effects this had on my family were devastating. My oldest son has cut the family off. He can not come to terms with the man he grew up with as a brother being in a relationship with his sister. There was a physical altercation, and although they both said they were going to put their differences aside, that was really the last time we saw him.

My daughter had her baby, and the child is beautiful and doing wonderfully. My daughter and her fiancé have since gotten married in a very small ceremony. My wife is focusing mainly on the baby and helping out with the baby as much as possible. She says she sees the small ways in which he is controlling my daughter but she tries not to say anything. Holidays and birthdays are still awkward but luckily in the day to day, we don’t see him very often since we come over during the workday.

Ultimately, my daughter seems very happy being a mother so that’s the best outcome I could hope for.

Here are what netizens think:

Predators are masterful manipulators; this man groomed your daughter and has now trapped her legally. Just make sure she knows that while you don’t support her relationship with this man, you support her and will be there for her whenever she needs. Don’t engage that much with her husband; it might lead to isolation from you.

Find evidence and he did naughty things when his younger.

This is grooming