I have just moved into a new flat which belongs to an older cousin of mine (F,34).

She decided to keep the flat and I asked her if I could rent it from her as I’ve been wanting to move out for a while and desire my own space.

I come from a family of 5, with two older siblings, M (28) and F (26). My parents have sold the family home and both siblings have their own places.

My parents have offered to let me move in with them, but I want have to my own space and having recently graduated from university with a degree in psychology has given me the confidence to move out on my own. I have begun working more hours at some retail job to pay my rent and bills.

Just after graduating, I met my boyfriend (M, 23) and he has also graduated. But still lives with his parents and works part-time. We have been going out for two months, and share many of the same interests and hobbies. However, he isn’t very financially responsible and has a history of gambling and other bad spending habits. Additionally, he is often very clinging and gets jealous and anxious when I spend time with friends and family whom I am close with.

His parents have recently kicked him out after an argument about him borrowing money from them and other family members. Whilst I didn’t mind it at first things changed. My boyfriend doesn’t help with household chores and often wastes food and drink, leaving the heating and electricity on when not in use.

I decided to speak with him, trying to get him to do more shifts at his work and contribute an even amount toward bills. He didn’t take kindly to this and said that my wages cover most of the expenses anyways.

I replied that it is only fair to share the bills and expenses between us, he scoffed but I told him that he should look to either fix things with his parents or find somewhere else to live. I told him that this was my space and that he despite being my boyfriend was a guest in my flat.

He left the flat that night and went to stay with his friends, we took a break from our relationship and I spent more time with my friends and family. He started messaging me across all social media, saying he wanted to move back in with me and that I was neglecting his needs by spending time with other people. After finding out he’d been kicked out from his friends

I decided that enough was enough and spoke to him, saying that I didn’t want him moving into my flat as he didn’t pull his weight and spent other people’s money. I decided to end the relationship as this was not how I wanted to start the next phase of my life and he needs to sort out the issues going on in his life before getting into another relationship.

My friends are divided, some said I am cold hearted. Am I?