So, I (35M) been living in my own house with my wife (36F), we have two kids (15F) and (12F)

Three months ago, we paid 5k for my brother-in-law to move overseas and we paid for tickets, clothes, getting him a job, everything you can imagine he said thank you and he would pay everything back.

Restarting his whole life in a new place. Since he no longer has a family he’s living with us. (He cheated on his wife and he got kicked and had nowhere to go.)

We found out texts of him saying that he was planning on leaving and never coming back, never paying us. we haven’t confronted him because my wife thinks he’ll change and that we should give him a chance on saving so he can pay us.

Later he said he will pay us the 5K and everything else when he gets settled but it’s been months and he’s getting paid 1,400 a week and 80% of that goes to the girls he meets on Facebook.

Just letting you know, years ago we had nothing and we asked if he could land us 100 dollars so we could buy our kid’s school supplies and he said no, he was going to use it to go out.

He only pays for the food he eats and that’s it. My wife and I let him borrow our car and he wrecked it and damaged the front and also damaged the tires so he could miss work and go out.

He doesn’t pay any rent or anything besides the food he consumes. I get along with his boss because he’s a friend of mine and he said he’s a bad worker, insults him and is trying his hardest not to fire him because he’s rude to everyone, arrives late and lies.

I wanted to charge him 250 dollars a month for the bedroom but my wife got pissed at me and even threatens to leave me with the kids because I’m being too “harsh” on her brother. My daughter (13) yelled at her everything he did to her (he wasn’t home) my wife got mad at her for it and is currently not speaking to her.

I feel bad and my 15 yo daughter is also on my side though I feel bad because my wife never stopped talking to our daughters because of something like this she always said to put her daughters on top of anyone so this got me thinking I might be the asshole.

so tell me am i wrong?