I feel bad for cancelling my daughter’s flight when she wanted to leave before my niece’s wedding, that she was a bridesmaid for

I know the title doesn’t sound great but hear it out. I will be using fakes names to protect their identities.

My (54m) niece Taylor (26f) got married a few days ago, my daughter Vienna (27f) was part of the bridal party as a bridesmaid.

This wedding has been over a year in planning and Vienna of course knew of her role and everything way in advance. She’s been hanging around a guy, Matthew for a while now but I don’t think they’re anything serious.

Matthew had gone overseas on a business trip and got into an accident, this all happened a couple of weeks before Taylor’s wedding. Vienna found out and had a nervous breakdown, saying that she needs to fly out immediately.

Yes I understand she was upset but she wasn’t thinking straight, and was unnecessarily worrying. I explained to her that even if she goes she has to come back before the wedding, but it’d be better if she didn’t as there’s a lot of last minute things.

She didn’t listen and kept saying she was going to go and probably stay there for a while.

Both me and my wife tried to explain to her to stay calm and she can go anytime after the wedding.

She called up Taylor, my brother and his wife and told them she wouldn’t be able to attend. Taylor understandably didn’t take the news well and his wife made a whole Facebook post saying “some people don’t want to see others happy” and “isn’t it nice when family quits at the last moment”.

She didn’t mention us by name explicitly but it’s obvious what it was about. It pretty much caused nuclear warfare throughout my side of the family, but Vienna wouldn’t hear it and booked a flight before the wedding. All of our flyer accounts are linked so I canceled her flight – Vienna went insane when she found out and we had a huge argument, and again we told her that she really needs to understand how big of a deal this wedding is as she’s part of the bridal party, and some man doesn’t overtake a family obligation.

I even offered to pay the extra cost so she can reschedule the flight after the wedding, but she blew up at all of us. Vienna did attend the wedding and did all her duties as a bridesmaid (and thankfully didn’t make a show), and all of us thanked her for understanding but she pretty much cursed us out (even my brother and his family).

Me and my wife tried calling and messaging her after the wedding but she’s not picking up or answering. I do know that she flew out the day after the wedding so I really don’t see what the issue is, but Vienna was clearly mad at us.