Hi just wondering if I am stingy or is my other half requesting more? all of the wedding expenses come from my pocket as in law and parents are not helping out.

For housing paying 4x more for down payment. Wedding photos 5xxx, Downry 5xxx and gifts jewellery 5 pieces about 5xxx onwards , Honeymoon yet to happen..

The rest of the cost to split such as reno and small banquet reception.. so i kinda request for the banquet (a small banquet) about 5xxx to not be 50/50 as im struggling to keep up with payments due to lack of funds.

I know she is being nice to offer 50/50. But I just feel Ive fork out a bit more overall.

And I dont want to disappoint my other half, as according to tradition in her pov its the male to fork out and carry the cost.

Should i pay all of it or nego about it?

Netizens’ comments

In a marriage, shouldn’t you be able to communicate with your spouse about everything? And when you’re experiencing hardships, shouldn’t they help you out? Why not sit her down for a heart to heart about your situation?

You’re spending too much on so many unnecessary items. Truly ask yourself, is it really worth all the money and effort? I hope you’re not one of those who are doing it because of “tradition” but you sound like you are…

Offer to pay for everything. Once you are married, your debts will become her debts. Your money will also become her money.

Oh man how old is she?It’s 2022, not 60s. Men to pay all is such a old school thinking. Unless you are filthy rich lor. I don’t see why guy has to pay everything while he’s struggling himself and sound like you already are.

need to always remember a wedding is just a celebration, not the marriage itself. So if it has to be simple then so be it cause don’t start married life with debts. As you two, as a couple, would be stressed.