FT NOT HAPPY HIS S’PORE COLLEAGUE CALL HIM “XIAO PANG”, WHOLE NIGHT CAN’T SLEEP
What should I do if I was fatshamed several times in my work?
Hi, sorry for the late night post. I legit couldn’t sleep due to the issue as written on the title.
So I (Foreigner) am currently on my probationary period in my company (just started work, into second month of probation, will end in the third month). There is this guy who made remarks about my physique three times since I began work.
In chronological order, they are:
He asked about my weight.
He called me 小胖 (xiao pang, or little fatty)
This happened yesterday. I was about to open a door for someone who rang the bell, so I got up from my seat. Then he said “Yeah better get up and move, else you’ll be fat”
Growing up fat and being fatshamed by numerous people such as teachers etc. I feel deeply insecure about my body image.
Regarding all these remarks, I did not respond with hostile remarks, but honestly these remarks left a sour taste in my mouth. I am seriously contemplating to report him to my reporting manager, but since I’m in probationary period I’m afraid that will affect the company’s evaluation of me, and I am afraid that this guy will even shame me with worse remarks. And this guy is “nice” to the rest of the team.
So what should I do at this point?
EDIT: I’m currently doing Intermittent Fasting and also taking evening paced walks for my exercise. Forgot to add this. My bad.
Tell him at least fat can be changed, but his ugliness will stay forever.
Jokes aside, idk why people continue to fat shame. They’re messed up. It’s not like those people who are clinically overweight and obese don’t know it themselves. Trust me they know they are fat and they are trying to do something about it even if you can’t see. It’s not like those people aren’t already beating themselves up in their head and receiving countless remarks from others.
I’m overweight and I know I’m fat. I look damn horrible in pictures. I don’t need others to continuously tell me and fat shame me bro like do u really think I’m not doing anything about it? Weight loss doesn’t happen overnight.
I think u should talk to him about it in private saying you don’t like it. If he continues, then gather voice recording evidence and report to HR
Btw it’s completely normal for weight to fluctuate and change over time. And also, if you didn’t already know, even medication can cause you to gain weight. Also, if you didn’t already know, sometimes they have health conditions where their weight is really out of their control even though they are eating healthy (on a calorie deficit), exercising etc.
Fat shaming people is so immature. People who are self-confident and know their self-worth would never insult another person.
I hope these people who fat shame receive the same treatment they give others one day.
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