Hello, me and my gf have been dating for a little while now. She just recently informed me that she is pregnant. She was on birth control and i thought it was safe, so i thought, apparently she lied to me, she will not give me a straight answer on why or how long she stopped taking it.

I believe, along with other reasons, that she purposely got pregnant without my permission.

But, pregnant nonetheless. I have not approached her on this and have only supported her so far. She is very anti-abortion and obviously wants to keep it. I personally, am not against kids, but seeing the way she did it, I don’t want to be with her.

She also has a condition called PCOS which makes miscarriages higher and getting pregnant hard to begin with. I guess im just looking for advice on how to move forward with this as its a lot to take in.

Here are what netizens think:

This is a big breach of trust. Are you absolutely sure she was on BC and then stopped? You should definitely approach her on this. While you might have a kid with her, that does not mean you have to be with her. The fact that she would lie and misdirection about something this big and life changing is giant red flag. She is willing to lie to and manipulate you to get what she wants.

Get rid of her, She decided that her wish to be pregnant was more important than your consent.

So did the conversation start with, “did you get pregnant on purpose?” Or “when did you do off birth control?” Cause I can see why you might not get an answer.

Did she say she was ever off her bc? Bc, while highly effective does still have a failure rate. If she accidentally skips a day or takes it at a different time or even takes it while on antibiotics can affect the effectiveness.