So im sharing this partly to get it out of my system, part ranting, part wondering how are others’ experience like, part giving advice also.

Last week during one of the weekend, I was just eating alone at a regular neighbourhood coffeeshop i frequent, while reading manhwa on phone. It was about 3pm so it was not crowded.

Then suddenly one guy approached me and said ‘hello, can we talk for a bit’.

I was slightly taken aback. Wondering if he is trying to evangelise, or getting donation, or asking me to sit somewhere else, etc.

So i looked around to confirm that there were plenty of seat before raising my eyebrows and answered: ‘yes?’

Him: ‘I saw you as im eating from the table there and thought you are cute. Can I have your number?’

I was shocked. Jerk reaction to look around to make sure there was no hidden camera or that he was talking to someone else.

Then i looked back at him in disbelief, didn know how to answer.

Then i got self-conscious, considered i was wearing like a slob, no makeup, eating halfway sweating because of the chilli, was also looking at phone and quiet giggling like a crazy person reading manhwa, then realised someone was watching me all along?! It was so embarassing! (Then I also feel flattered that someone still say i look cute lah).

But at that point of time, i didn really know how to answer. So I kinda say sth along the line: ‘Err, thanks? But this is the first time i encounter this, so i dont know what to say’

Him: ‘Oh, this is my first time also’ (awkward laugh) ‘Can I get your number?’

Me thinking internally: ‘Shit, this guy is serious? He look like a nice person, should I give my number? But there are a lot of scammers these days. Maybe telegram better? Wait, since he eat here, then maybe he also stay around this area? What if he is a psycho and follow me home. Maybe i just ask to eat together, then we can just talk first? Good to make friend with neighbour also. Shit, how to tell him that. But im so unglam eating right now. It is weird if i tell him to let me finish my food first?’

So about 5 seconds of silent while i was thinking on what to say.

Then i decided i was gonna tell him: ‘No, but maybe we can exchange telegram’.

When I said: ‘No…’

He cut me off and said something along the line of: ‘I understand’ Then walked away.

I was a bit dumbfounded. After about 5 second or so,,, i decided to just get back to my food and manhwa.

After got home, that experience felt soooo out-of-norm for me. Like i was in the manhwa i was reading. In the end i decided to just get on with life. but for the last week, i felt kinda conscious when im eating at that coffeeshop :/

anyone encounter this before? Not sure if that guy is serious or just fool around. I was wondering if it is normal to pick girls at coffeeshop.

So I guess my message to all guys out there who are serious, i know u guys may be nervous, but the girl may be nervous also? So maybe better let the girl finish the food first? Or let her finish the sentence.

Also, anyone know anyone who did this last week? Maybe tell that guy to try again, haha. If he is serious, I wanna tell him I appreciate his bravery and gesture. Dont give up.

TL;DR; He asked for her number in coffeeshop; she didn want to give number but willing to share tele; he walked away before she could complete the sentence.

Edit: someone from comment suggested for guys to give contact instead of asking from girls. Maybe that will work better, haha.