I normally 3-4 days per week and I am also studying. My partner works Monday to Friday usually from 7am-3pm.

I cooked dinner a couple nights ago for my partner and myself. I asked if he could help me do the dishes and he said ok. I asked if he wanted to wash or dry and put the dishes away, he said he wanted to dry the dishes.

I start washing the dishes and my partner puts away the dishes that are on the dish drying rack so that I can fit the ones I’ve just washed on there.

My boyfriend starts complaining about drying the dishes with a tea towel and that they should just be left on the drying rack to dry. I asked if he could help dry and put them away so it helps me out and so I wouldn’t have to put them away myself the next day.

I ended up washing all the dishes. My boyfriend said he’ll put them away. A couple of days go by and doesn’t put them away. I end up putting them away because he forgot.

Last night I made dinner again and I asked if my partner could help me do the dishes.

The same thing happened. He said he doesn’t understand why he has to dry the dishes himself when there’s a drying rack that does all the work. I said that it would help me out. He started complaining again and I just walked away.

Later on I brought up how I was a bit upset that he didn’t help me and that didn’t go very well. He was saying things like when we get our own place (currently living with his parents) that he won’t have a dishwasher because it’s illegal and that we can just wash them ourselves. I think the point he was making is that leaving the dishes on the drying rack to dry is the smarter thing to do and because I wanted him to help me dry them and put them away is the less smarter thing (he’s very sarcastic).