So me and my boyfriend have been together for 2 years and a half. We’ve had our ups and downs but over all it’s been a good relationship.

So I have a spam account where I post memes and just random parts of my day and stuff like that. I’m very selective about who follows my spam account and this is very crucial later in the story.I also have a very close male friend, let’s call him John, whom I know for over 4 years now.

We’ve been very close but NEVER in a physical way nor have we ever seen each other as more than friends. He literally talks to me about the girls he’s seeing and asks me for advice AND hits on my girlfriends. I just cannot stress enough that we’re nothing more than best friends.

Now my boyfriend isn’t really fond of him. I’m not sure why but he can’t stand him and he always gets mad at me when I hang out with John.Anyway, so one day I decided to accept John in my spam account. It’s like the third time I do this since all the other times I’ve done it my bf gets mad and demands I remove him.

He’s like that with any guy I accept in my spam actually (the only boys that are following me there are my bf, a cousin of mine and another close friend I’ve had since middle school). So as I said I’m very selective about who follows me and I only have the closest friends follow me there.

Now when my bf saw that I had accepted John again he was furious. He called me and started screaming and wanted me to remove John again. I told him that it’s my account and I understood that maybe he didn’t like John but he needs to realize that he’s my friend and whether he likes it or not I trust him enough to allow him to see what I post privately. He then hung up the phone. Later that day I saw that he had accepted a girl who used to like him on his own spam account.

I didn’t care about that more than I cared about the fact that he did it on purpose to piss me off. In the evening I decided to call him to see if he had calmed down and he brought it up again demanding I remove John from my spam. We started fighting again when I mentioned the girl who used to like him and in the end he said he wanted me to choose between him and John. So I chose John. And now we’re kinda broken up?After that he hung up and didn’t talk to me for like two days. I called him yesterday to wish him luck on an upcoming exam but other than that he hasn’t spoken to me. I removed him from my spam and also unfollowed his. I don’t know if I’m in the wrong because tbh whenever I accepted John he got mad so maybe I shouldn’t have, knowing it would get him mad but then again John is a very close friend of mine who I can talk to about anything and I feel I can trust him enough to see a part of me that not everyone sees. And I hate the fact that my bf never tries to listen to me but just gets mad and demands stuff from me without listening to me first.

So am I the wrong for choosing my friend over my boyfriend? I know the topic we fought over is really dumb and childish but I can’t decide if I’m in the wrong here ://