My bf owes me alot of money.

We are together for about 4 years. In the beginning of the relationship, he was still in NS, so i didnt thought much of it when i pay for our dates, sometimes giving him allowance for his own meals. I am wondering if this has become a habit for him. Even though the topic has come up a lot of times, i admit that i havent been the most patient gf to him on this. He has gym memberships paid by me, physio costs was borrowed from me as well.

He has try, in his words, to accommodate to me and we no longer eat at expensive restaurants. Nowadays when we eat out, he will even pay for my meals. We also have a joint account together, but since he have been taking a lot from there, i try not to keep any amount in there. He has also stopping taking money from the account. However, his dad’s insurance money is deducting from our joint account, so there at least have to be an amount set aside every month. He is contributing most of that amount.

We have applied for a bto, and renovations pressurising me to save a lot more now, to cater for the pricing. Since i earned more, and his pay just nice covers his monthly bills, i am saving up solely for the renovations. It is a bit taxing on me, but no choice if i want to be able to renovate the house.

Recently we are planning something for our anniversary, so he booked something online, and told me to share the price. Was due to return me an amount this month, but i get the feeling that he has forgotten about it. So i let him know about that. Before him booking online we discussed about the item, but i did not agree to it. My credit card has monthly installments auto implemented, so, we couldve delayed the payment. But he told me that im being v unappreciative of his efforts, and that he didnt do anything, but am rudely shocked awake by me telling him that he still owes me money.

There are previous times where he slept happily, thinking about the plans he made, but got scolded by me the minute he wakes up. Am i being a v bad gf? I am really stressed about the money issues..