The intimacy with my husband is bad. I dread having to sleep with him because of how bad it is. Plus he does not turn me on. No foreplay. The whole thing last 2 minutes with occasional awkward eye contact during this time.

He came home very late yesterday. The idea of him having a mistress floated in my head and I actually felt joy.

Why did I marry him if I knew he wasn’t skilled?- in the beginning we did discuss what we liked. He told me something completely different than what he actually did when it came time to perform. He initially attempted a bit of foreplay in the beginning, but after marriage all of that stopped.

Why don’t you communicate? – I know it’s partly my fault but he makes fun of me or calls me weird for even discussing it now. He has also joked in the past that he does not care if his partner comes or not, as long as he does. He also laughs after we do it, so I don’t even know how to bring it up. The whole thing has been strange.

Why don’t you go to therapy? – We need to even see a regular therapist before we see a focused therapist. I’ve tried to ask him to see a couples counselor in the past, he would not go. I doubt he would be willing to go to a therapist for this, plus I feel to embarrassed to ask.

Are you cheating on him? – No. I’m also not interested in being unfaithful. I feel like I’ve made my bed now I have to lay in it. It is not a deal breaker for me.