I(41) told my husband(42) that I will always put my children first over him.

I will pick my children over him. I don’t want to say this but he keeps getting on my nerves.

He would always tell me that I’m brainwashing the kids not to like him. Our kids(14F, 15F, 17M) asked me why their dad is always angry at them. He would find something to be angry at them. He would always find something to blame them. He doesn’t even remember his children’s birthdays.

2 days ago, he got mad at me for helping my daughter with her math homework. I always help her with math because I know how hard it is and she doesn’t like that subject.

I didn’t cook. He got home from work and asked me why there was no food. I told him that I didn’t get to cook because I cleaned the house and I’m so tired. I told him there are some frozen foods in there or if he doesn’t want to cook there are canned goods.

He told me he doesn’t want any of those. He asked if our daughter can’t do her homework and why am I helping her instead of cooking our food. I told him that his children cooked their food because I was cleaning the house, why can’t you? He said that I’m making him look bad to the kids and that’s why they don’t like me. I said that’s his problem, not mine, that he is not like that before.

I don’t know what got into him. But one weird thing that I’ve noticed is that since our kids hit puberty, that’s when his behaviour changed. As I said, I told him that I will always put my children first before him. He got mad and left the house. He also blocked my number. Am I too much?

I’m kinda feeling guilty about what I said. I don’t know.