My (25f) husband (28m) and I were invited to a couples dinner as part of his motorcycle group.

He tells me we are going to take his bike which I agree to.

He’s an experienced driver and has been riding for about 7-8 years and never been in any accident or crash. That being said, I have been on the back of the motorcycle with him a handful of times and I know he has the tendency to drive fast.

So today as we were hopping on I specifically told him not to drive crazy.

He proceeds to hop on the highway and hit speeds over 100km/h. He’s lane splitting in between cars, his helmet doesn’t have the visors so at this point his vision is impaired as well. And at one particular point he let go of both handle bars to button up his jacket (I was terrified at the speed and squeezed his jacket causing one button to open).

I know he is doing so to show off to his motorcycle group.

By the time we get to the restaurant I’m freaking out internally and shaking with fear but he immediately goes in and we grab in a seat at the of a long table with about 10-15 people already there eating (we’ve exchanged no words up to this point). My husband asks me what I’m gonna want and he sees that I’m upset and he asks me if I’m mad and if I thought he went too fast.

I’m not sure if it was the fear or his audacity to ask if he was going too fast that made me snap at him kind of loudly in front of his motorcycle group. I told him how he could possibly think it’s okay to ride at those speeds with his wife behind him. He tried to play it off and kind of act dumb but I wasn’t having it.

I said if he wants to ride like that when he’s by myself then to be my guest but not when I’m behind. I should mention that I was stern but I wasn’t yelling or screaming. But it was enough to get the whole table quiet and heard everything I told him.

The dinner proceeded, he talked and joked with his buddies and I just sat there on my phone. But by the time we got home, he was quiet and just on his phone. I asked him if there was anything he had to say to me. He said do you want me to apologize or what?

I told him I felt unsafe at those speeds to which he said that the motorcycle reads the speed faster than what it really is and that motorcycles always run faster than cars in the highway. When I brought up him letting go of the handle bars, he said he was always in control because he knows his bike and that he knew the highway and that specific part of road was flat and had no turns or bumps.

He then goes on to make me feel bad and say that I had no right to snap at him in front of his friends. He says I should have pulled him aside and talked with him instead of creating the spectacle at restaurant. I’m normally not the person to yell or get escalated at all but I tried to explain to him that I was just so upset and afraid that I just couldn’t hold it in and snapped.

He says I disrespected him and is super upset with me and he decided to sleep on the couch and knowing him he’ll probably sleep there for a couple of nights because he’s so upset. So am i wrong?