I knew my husband since I was 20 and we were together for 10 years before we got married.

We moved into our BTO straight after we got married and has been staying there for close to 3 years now.

We don’t ever quarrel and nothing seems to be of issue but recently he asked me for a divorce. He said that he is very sian of our current standard of living and cannot stand it that I’m not ambitious enough. He complained about how at our age, some of his friends have already changed multiple cars and upgraded to a condo while he’s still stuck in a four-room flat and squeezing with the morning crowd just to get to work.

I wasn’t offended by his words because I really am not ambitious. I’m very content leading a simple life and don’t see the point of working so hard when honestly I already have enough money to retire if I continue to lead this simple life. What I feel most offended by is when I asked him why he did not raise this issue during our 13 years of relationship, he said it won’t matter because I won’t change and I shouldn’t force myself to change just because of him.

Am I that sort of an unreasonable and uncooperative partner to him? How can he just assume things like that without even asking me about it?

I can feel that he’s very adamant about the divorce and he said that he wouldn’t mind buying over my share of the house so I don’t have to continue paying the mortgage.

I can still stay in the house until I have enough money to move out on my own. If I want to keep the house, then he’ll sell his shares to me and move back to his parent’s place until he finds a new place. I have until the end of the week to think over his proposal and give him a reply.

This news is so sudden that I still have thoughts of it being just a bad dream.

I don’t know if it’s just me in shock that I don’t feel sad about us separating but I am very stunned to the extent that I honestly don’t know what I should be doing right now.