1st time poster and this story maybe long so be kind. I will rry to clarify any info if needed.

I (29f) & partner (35m) recently won a life-changing amount of money playing the 4D.

When we got the news we did not tell anyone. We made an appointment with a solicitor and financial planner to check out the legality, taxes etc and to make a smart plan with the money so we didn’t just waste it.

Partner and I were in agreement that my mother (widow) and his parents were going to get some money.

I don’t have any siblings but my husband comes from a larger family. He has 3 siblings he is extremely close with and 2 that he could not care less about due to the way they treat us.

1 week after the winnings were given to us and we had a plan in place we decided to ask said family members over to our house to inform them.

We agreed each family member would have their debts paid out, house to a certian value purchase & a lump sum of cash. This was going to my mum, partner parents & all siblings.

We set the time & place and let everyone know. Unfortunately, the 2 siblings we don’t get along with didn’t bother to respond to the message we sent and told the inlaws they had no interest in coming to our house for some stupid family get along party.

At the end of the lunch, The inlaws asked what about the other 2 who did come. I was about to speak when my Partner clearly said all were invited, they didn’t respond to us and from what they told you I think we will rethink our offer and give nothing. If they can’t spare 2 hours of their time and give nothing but attitude then why should we help?

The inlaws flipped it! I mean yelled directly at me and called me selfish and said this was all my doing. If I don’t give the other 2 any money then they don’t need it either.

We ended the convo there on the note of not a worry, no money for you and the other 2 siblings.

No problems at all. We asked them to leave as We couldn’t be bothered fighting with them. We didn’t have to share any of the winnings. I thought we were fair in what we were doing. We have now had nonstop texts and phone calls from the inlaws and the 2 siblings that didn’t show saying how horrid we are by taking away there future. The other siblings are with us but still think if the inlaws say sorry for there beviour we should help them still.

So am i wrong for not giving the other 2 siblings our lottery winnings when they didn’t want anything to do with us?