Jon Bon Jovi and his wife Dorothea Hurley prove that marriages in Hollywood can last. After 40-years together and raising four children, the couple most definitely has a few marriage secrets they could share — and in a new interview, the high school sweethearts do just that.

What’s their secret? “Mutual respect,” Jon told People. “Having grown up together and grown together. And we really like each other. We want to hang out.” The rocker, whose is releasing his new album, 2020, Friday, Oct. 2, went on to reveal his first impression of Dorthea when they first met as teenagers in 1980. “I was immediately drawn to her from the minute I saw her — and that’s never changed — 40 years ago.″