So, i have always had a domestic helper in my household since i was a baby, i am 30 now, My family still has one, but now ive been paying.

Anyways, my current helper is great, she cooks better than my mom, for real. Her job is just to cook,clean and take care of my dog.

Nevertheless, she has her own room in my house. She is free to do whatever she wants, she is own her own schedule. When my family goes out to dinner, we bring her as well. When we go for movies, we bring her as well. When my mom went for her short trip with her friends recently, she went as well. I am not gonna list everything, but you get the idea. It is not specificially for this current helper,but with all the helpers my household has ever had

Ever so often, and i mean i have seen this soo many times, i see a family eating at some seafood restaurant, one big family. And in another table, their helper would sit all by herself eating fried rice or some mixed rice, while the rest of the family eat a huge meal of crabs/fish

I have also seen where a big family (all the cousins,aunt, uncles) get together, they’d bring their helpers along. And again all the helpers would be seated separated in one table eating fried rice or some thing like that, while the rest of the family would be eating a huge ass meal.

I experienced this yesterday too, and i wanted to tell off the family, but then again i am not confrontational.

It is strange to me, as if there is no food at home, and i decided to order Ceasers’ pizza, either my helper allows me to decide for her what type of pizza she wants, or she tells me what pizza she wants or she says’ “i dont want to have pizza today, i want double McSpicy” like it is 2nd nature, no matter how long the helper has been with us

And please don’t say, they can’t eat “blah blah” that’s why. Or because maybe it is not halal, i dont believe thats the case.

And recently, i was invited to some birthday party. And was asked to stay longer for some drinks.

And in that household, they have a helper to take care of the child. So we were all mostly guys, in the hall. While the TV was on, basically it was noisy, as people were drinking.

And then the helper was at the corner of the hall, fixing up some partition, so i asked what was she doing, and was told, she was going to sleep. i took a peak in this makeshift room, it was just a bed, with some suitcase underneath, and the partition surrounds the bed. Thats it. I was like WTF.

But didnt say anything, as i am not confrontational.

I would like to know why? And it only in recent years that i have been seeing this, i have not seen this when i was younger, maybe more people are hiring helpers.