MAN CAN’T ATTEND FRIEND’S WEDDING, GROOM SAYS “PAYNOW ME THE ANGPAO MONEY”
My friend sent me a wedding invitation via postage. He knows where i stay so he just posted the invite to me without informing beforehand.
I had plans on that day so i texted him “congrats! But i have something on that day, will not be able to make it.”
He replied thanks and then after chit chatting for a while he ended the conversation with “so you will paynow me your angpow ya?” …….
Err, I am not very sure about this. Is it receive invitation already must give angpow? even when you are not attending??
If he is a traditional chinese thinking person, probably yes. However, I believe you can decide yourself about this.
Don’t so bad la… Just payNow him the fee for the stamp. And decline his invitation. Remember to congrats him again
It would be out of goodwill (up to me to decide) to give even I’m not attending, depends on the friendship level. BUT, having him to ask that is plain RUDE.
Traditionally and conventionally, yes – you still have to give angpow. But you can give less as you are not going. That’s what I’m told la.
You also never agree to go, just ignore the message lor. Who cares man. He’s not being respectful either.
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hweejaya_0554 29/03/2024
Nowadays, wedding dinners is so expensive that couples had to resort to begging for Ang pows even when not attending. Marry comfortably, if can’t afford a lavished wedding just go for a simple one. There are cases of couple deeply in debts after wedding due to heavy borrowings from banks to throw a lavished wedding dinner because of face-saving .
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