I am contemplating divorce or just ending everything…

We’ve been married 5 years, our child is a newborn a couple of weeks old.

Partner is doing confinement, which means the wife has to avoid contact with water, not shower, not drink room temperature water (drink red date tea instead of water). She also has to eat very specific foods for her body to regenerate… (TCM stuff…)

I don’t buy into any of it, but she does so I kept an open mind.

We were financially a little tight so we didn’t hire a dedicated confinement lady, I decided to take the helm and bought a packaged food prep specialised for postpartum recovery (TCM approved) and focused on getting her what she needs through the month.

I’m not sure if it’s the hormones or the sleep deprivation… But I am doing literally everything else for her, she is just focused on feeding our little one (I understand this is super hard) and we agreed that we wouldn’t stress on breast milk as long as our bub is fed. We do whatever it takes to keep my wife sane.

I cook, I clean, I sterilise, I assemble the pump bottles, I brew her herbal tea every morning, and ensure the thermos gets replaced fresh every day.

She occasionally throws a tantrum (mild, she just starts giving me cold shoulder) when – the tea I make for her personal thermos bottle is either too hot to drink immediately, or too cold – the food I make is too simple ( sometimes I get too tired to skim the beef tallow/scum off the boiled soup)

She sometimes makes snide remarks like is ginger too expensive? When I didn’t put enough in her veges (I add to this, that it was intentional so she can actually consume them rather than just as flavour)

Our bub is only so young, but I’m not sure if I’ll ever be good enough for my wife. I don’t know what to do, I feel like if I bail, I bail on my kid.

I get darker thoughts sometimes, but I’ll never go that far, my kid needs me.

Did I do enough, or am I just selfish and not putting her needs ahead of mine enough?