Is it really that odd to not want to date, get married, or have kids?

I’ve been a materialist and a pragmatist my whole life. It worked well for me because I did my undergrad (CS and math) and masters at Carnegie Mellon University and until the end of last year, I worked at a pretty large quantitative hedge fund in New York. I’m 30 this year and I made $500K all in last year. My dad got into some heart trouble in January. I quit my job and I came home a week after I heard the news. He’s fine. I now work for a local startup, making a modest salary. But I get time to spend with my parents.

It got me thinking. I have never ever, not even once, thought about having a partner. It just never crossed my mind. I am attracted to women all the time, I’ve just always had such a high level of self-control in my life that it takes very little to no effort for me to say no to things that I can’t see the benefit of. I don’t see any tangible benefits to me of having a family. I’ve had conversations to people about how having a partner and kids will bring me happiness, but I’ve never felt unhappy single.

I love my work. I love making progress by working hard. Some days I don’t even leave the office until 2-3 in the morning and it makes me feel an immense sense of achievement that I got a lot done in any particular day. I love going to movies alone. I love spending 2-3 hours in the kitchen cooking. I especially love cleaning up afterwards. I really love washing dishes. Like it’s odd even to me how much I love washing dishes by hand. I love the sound of nothing. I’m always in a good mood whenever my apartment is completely devoid of any sound. I had special windows installed just to make my apartment as quiet as possible.

I’m also an only child. My dad sold his small business for $10M 20 years ago and he put the entire amount into 3 houses that are now worth $30M minimum. These houses are now in my name. I don’t even have to work anymore I just love to work. I’m thinking of starting my own business.

I don’t reject the idea of marriage and family. I just want an argument so compelling that it would make no sense for me to stay single. I love Singapore and I thought about just getting married to have kids to add to the population. But in the end I concluded that there are more ways than one to help this country than to have kids I don’t want and completely screw up their childhood. Most of the people around me have used the argument “if everyone thought like me humanity would go extinct.” If everyone thought like me and I alone didn’t think like me, humanity will go extinct anyway. It’s not like one person is gonna make a dent in the global population trajectory, and I don’t have the influence to affect what other people decide to do.

Any helpful people out there who want to try convincing me having a family is strictly better than being single? Pragmatic answers only please. I’m an agnostic and if it isn’t enshrined in law, tradition and culture mean nothing to me.