I’m with my girlfriend for 3 years. She’s been bugging me to marry her and it’s really starting to stress me out.

I didn’t tell her I actually have 6 figure savings accumulated from my deceased father’s will on top of my own assets and let her think I’m a pauper. She even gave me money once when she thought my family finances were tight but I rejected it.

A part of me decided she is the one after she did that.

My mother told me to never flaunt our wealth so as not to attract the wrong people so I guess I start to feel funny about money since young. We mostly go to hawkers and only visit restaurants when there is a special occasion like birthdays or Christmas.

Our dates are usually very low costs. I like that when the weather permits, we have the habit of alighting earlier from the train or bus and spend more time walking together and talking to reach our destination.

I lied to her that we can’t afford a flat yet and she showed hand me her savings and say she can and kept asking me not to waste her time in a joking way. Her family is pretty well to do. Her dad even gifted her a car when she got promoted but she sold it as she’s not confident driving.

The problem I have with my GF may be insignificant to some couples. I don’t really have any major red flags or issues about her. Even if she’s not my gf, I would think of her as a great person to have around. I know other men will find her very eligible given her looks, personality and family background. My mother loves her and already considers her a daughter-in-law. But I have a but. I’m not ready. We are in our late 20s.

How do you become ready?

I’m so in love with her but I just couldn’t make myself get down on one knee and ask for her hand in marriage.

Here are what netizens think:

You just need competition. Once the danger of losing her becomes very real then u will treasure her more.Let her go out and work and be in the company of guys who are waiting to flaunt their wealth and generosity to her. U will become better after losing her.

It is a typical scenario. When you have her, you don’t treasure her. When you lose her, then you will regret why you never treasure her. She is way more mature than you. Her future have you but your future do not have her. Let her go. You can’t even be truthful to her when it comes to money.

Please do a good deed and break up with her. She deserves better. It’s one thing to not tell her your savings but another to lie about being a pauper. She sounds like a nice girl and deserves someone who is honest with her. I hope she dumps you soon