Boyfriend is germaphobic about my private parts and refuses to go down on me.

My boyfriend made a comment that he shouldn’t have gone down on me when he was sick (with a regular head cold ) because it made him sicker – he said that “v-ginas are filled with germs and bacteria”

He legitimately believes that it is dirty and compared it to “licking a pole” and how he wouldn’t do that if he was sick.

I am super frustrated and cannot understand this point of view. I want someone who is super turned on by going down on me. Everyone else I have dated was super into it. I’ve never met a guy like this before

Any advice ?? Is this normal?

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If anything, his mouth is dirtier.

Mouths have far more germs, bacteria, and etc. than genitals, but I bet he doesn’t hesitate to kiss you.

Time for someone who appreciates you

people are quick to jump to “dump him, he does’nt appreciate you”. The post is very short and mentions one episode. Not even talking about trying to fix the problem. Shit, for all we know she might actually have needed to take a bath in that specific case.You know, might actually start with talking to him about why he thinks so, explain to him that they are actually quite the opposite as they are “self cleaning” To a degree, and maybe even go so far as to ask if anything seemed odd or different when he went down on her.

Biologist here! Every square inch of your skin is covered in billions (or perhaps even trillions) of bacteria. Hell, your mouth, intestines, and uterus also have billions of bacteria in them. In fact, different regions of your body will even have different diverse communities of bacteria. They’re all pretty much harmless or even beneficial, unless they end up somewhere they’re not supposed to be like an open cut.