My best friend’s husband confessed that he’s in love with me…and the feelings are mutual.

the point of this post is not to get validation. I just don’t want to lose my friends And I don’t want their relationship to end. Despite how I feel toward him, I don’t want to take Him from her. I never foresaw or wanted any of this.

It’s honestly dreadful. I (30F) don’t know how we got here. I slept over one night when the three of us returned from a day trip and bff (31F) fell asleep ahead of us. That’s when he (31M) told me how he felt and I admitted I was in love with him too.

Although the three of us are very close, after 5 years of friendship I did not see this coming at all. Somehow things changed over the past year. I guess we started spending more time together and the way he treats me doesn’t help as he’s awfully thoughtful, chivalrous, sweet and gentleman like toward me at every opportunity. I slowly realized my feelings toward him are more complex than I knew after I randomly broke down crying thinking about how fortunate I feel to have him in my life.

We always hang out as a group. We do so much together. I’m with them on every trip. At every event. I’m with them multiple days a week and nights too (countless sleepovers) because she (bff) always wants me around and I do love their company. Well now it seems to have led to her husband and I growing to a point of affection and care that is no longer simply friendship.

He has no intention of leaving her or anything like that nor would I want him to. We just seem to have fallen into this deeper place with each other and I don’t think there’s any turning back.

He’s always on my mind and I can’t seem to shake it. When the three of us are together the tension is always there and it’s undeniable. I feel we’re physically fighting this urge to express how we feel And it sucks horribly all around.

He’s also been making affectionate/loving comments more recently (expressing how happy he is that I’m in their lives, etc.) but I know my bff thinks it’s innocent and platonic.

I miss him desperately when whenever our group visits and trips end until the next time we all have plans together. It physically hurts.

I’m starting to feel like a bad friend. I don’t know what to do. Distance myself from the most important people in my life? Confess and possibly ruin every relationship?