I’m a late 30s married man, and I think I’m going crazy and need a place to vent and release steam.

I grew up with a brother who was more academically inclined. As a result, while I was made to study at a cheaper local institution (and was told my parents didn’t have the money to send me anywhere else), they sent my brother to a prestigious university in overseas where he subsequently became a citizen.

While back here, after graduating I was expected to work and stay in the same house as my parents. Even after getting married, I have been staying with my two old folks. Moving out is not an option (financially, I can afford it) as my parents have a rocky relationship with each other I end up being the mediator of all their arguments. I have turned down overseas opportunities as well just because of how bad their fights are and the emotional blackmail (crying, saying I am abandoning them, etc). Now that my mom has an incurable disease, it has become even more difficult/impossible for me to move out as my dad does not care/does not want to be involved in any medical decisions, bringing her to the hospital for checkups, etc.

With the overhead of taking care of these old folks, and with added pressure of having kids (me and the wife are often reminded we are not young anymore) I’m not sure how much pressure I can take as it feels that even as an adult I’m ending up becoming subservient to my parents up till their deaths. And between all this, how did I get the short straw of all this whilst my brother who received more money and more attention can live a happier life? Is it just fate?