My (35F) fiance (37M) keeps checking out other women and I’m considering calling off the marriage.

He can’t help himself. He always looks. It’s infuriating. I told him if he considers me an option and wants to see what is out there, he can leave.

I’m sure it would be easy for him to find the woman he’s looking for because he makes more money than I do and I’m sure women would flock to him.

He’s interested in bimbos who wear tight clothing and that’s just not me.

In addition to my frustration on his looking around, I do fine for myself and I’m the only woman he’s every dated with her own money, career, and house, and an advanced degree.

Everyone else has made significantly less than he has. He throws money at women and his poor exes but is up in arms about having to help me with anything financially.

I don’t make a lot of money but I’m not on assistance like his exes have been. I just make enough to survive paycheck to paycheck.

I’m seriously considering calling off the marriage and making him move out. Anyone else been through this?

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I hate the “he can’t help it” narrative. Of course he can help it.Things we can’t help: farting, burping, going to the bathroom. Aka, biological functions.Things we CAN help if we care enough: most other things.The real truth is that he doesn’t want to and can’t be bothered to even try to pretend to not do it around you.I can’t decide for you if you should stay or not, but you should for sure do lying to yourself about what is capability and what is choice on his part.And I will point out that a core component of love is respect. This doesn’t sound to me like he has even an iota of respect for you… Do with that as you will.

There are men that don’t do this. My boyfriend never looks at other women when I’m around. He never hits on other women, isn’t interested in it. Maybe he checks out women a normal amount when I’m not there which is fine, it’s natural to a certain extent. He speaks to everyone with respect when we go out and doesn’t change his demeanour when a pretty girl is around.What you’re describing is completely disrespectful. The fact that he throws money at women who aren’t you and completely disregards your feelings is awful. I wouldn’t feel secure with a guy like this, especially if his type is bimbotic sugar babies and that’s not you. You are setting yourself up for a lot of heartache if you marry this man.