So my sister (28) got a job offer that would require her to move as it is a shift job at Tuas and it would not make sense for her to commute hours away from our parents who we were currently still living with.

She didn’t want to move out on her own alone so she asked me (25F) to move out with her, which I happily obliged. For the first couple of months, things went smoothly. I did have trouble finding a job since one wasn’t waiting on me, but I made my due by cleaning the house.

After a few months of me cleaning though, I decided I wasn’t going to spend hours every couple of days going through the house and cleaning her mess if she couldn’t do the bare minimum to keep it clean for at least a few days. We were renting a 2 bedrooms, and I cleaned it almost 3 times a week because my sister is a slob.

She never did her laundry, she would constantly take my towels from my bathroom cause she didn’t clean hers and she wouldn’t return them and just left them on her bathroom floor where her cats and dog would pee on them.

If she ever did wash clothes, it was only her 1 work uniform. When she cooked, she didn’t do the dishes or even put up her food. There would be mouldy food still sitting on the stove in the skillets/ sink until I cleaned it. She has 2 cats and would let the 3 litter boxes get so bad that she would open the windows to dilute the smell instead of cleaning them out, and when her dog pissed or crapped on the floor, it would sit for weeks.

When she ordered food or had snacks, instead of throwing the trash away, she put it behind the couch or on the ground where her dog would proceed to tear it up. After I stopped cleaning, she called me out on it and told me if I wasn’t working to provide for the house, the least I could do was clean it up which, she has a point, but she has never had to provide for me while I was jobless.

Other than paying her bills (which me living with her does not affect how much she would be paying), I made sure she didn’t have to do anything for me. She didn’t have to buy my groceries, sanitary products, gas, or any other necessity I needed so it wasn’t like she was spending any extra money as a result of me living with her.

I stayed in my bedroom almost 22 out of the 24 hours in a day and it just frustrated me that she would not take any steps in making sure the hours I spent cleaning didn’t go to waste. She told me it wasn’t fair to her that she had to work all day and come home to a mess and cleaning is the least I could do since I’m not working but all I wanted from her was to at least make an attempt at keeping the place clean.

Not once has she ever thanked me and just watching her eat and throw the trash on the floor when the trash can was 3 feet away sparked an anger in me I didn’t even know I had.