Ryan Gosling was one of the inarguable peaks of this year’s Academy Awards ceremony. He didn’t win an Oscar (that one went to RDJ), but he did bust out a spirited, super-sized, star-studded rendition of “I’m Just Ken” — a strong contender for the best musical performance in the show’s history. Some people did notice a big part of his life was missing, though: Eva Mendes, his longtime partner, with whom he has two children. Predictably, there’s a perfectly understandable reason for her absence.