I (29F) just found out that a year ago my husband (29M) planned to go with prostitutes and was on a dating website, sending photos of him to other women.

What pains me is that he did it when I got diagnosed with Lupus and the same period I lost another pregnancy.

His pathetic excuse was “my boss told me to get on the dating website and that it could have helped me with my mental health”… And I am a psychologist, mind you…

I’m heart broken, I feel so betrayed and humiliated.

What gets me is that he didn’t tell me and kept telling me that he wants kids so while I was getting pumped up with hormones he was planning on cheating on me…

What did I do to deserve this? Why wasn’t I enough? How can someone hurt his/her spouse like this?

I’m crying my eyes out, I still cannot believe this

He told me that he is afraid of my anger and that there was a time when he was feeling really alone and I made him miserable.

I still cannot believe it… If it was with a coworker… Or a friend that I could confront… But a prostitute…? I don’t know what to feel, I am nauseated, cannot sleep at all from all the thoughts that go in my mind.

Sorry, I’m just venting..

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Your husband is a selfish, immature idiot. Take time and do not be hasty in coming to any decision. Going to hurt another for a while, whatever your path I wish you well.

I’m sorry. Your husband sounds immature & selfish.

I know this is hard to believe right now but his cheating actually has nothing to do with you. This is all him. He may try to say it’s your fault but that’s b/c misery loves company. It’s a lie. So please don’t internalize his behavior as being your fault. It isn’t. Period.