How to get over my spouse cheating on me?

Its been almost a year since I reconciled with my spouse over his cheating with a young girl and although we are working back on the trust.

It felt like my esteem has took a heavy blow given I am much older as compared to the third party and I am sure to most broken relationships over cheating reasons-you will tend to always snoop at the third party to really figure out why and what attracts him over in the first place right?

I know I need to move on and love myself more, which I tried but I cannot help to sometimes snoop (& compare)? Its so hard and killing me inside.

Here are what netizens think:

i’d always think whoever dates someone married aren’t normal in terms of morale, IQ, EQ and has no self respect/ego/ self discipline. i mean if the person is all that good.. so many singles out there.. why lower themselves to date unavailable ones and be a sidechick? lmao. love is never blind. it should also reflects how dumb your husband is for having an affair. it’s not about you. if he no longer loves you, he should outright leave you and not go for easy way to satisfy his whatever needs. he betrayed his wife and still has the face to go back to her.. so shameless IMO.

Everyone of us have different sides but it don’t define who we are as a person. Unfortunately due to the situation, the negative side of you came out…. Being sneaky, suspicious and so on. But that’s not who you are. I hope you learn to detach and understand in life, there’s always ups and downs. It’s always about the lessons learn to know ourselves better and build a better version. I hope you can focus on yourself to gain confidence again. Know who you really are. Becoming someone you are not is because your environment /people brought out the worst side of you. What done can never be undone but we all have a choice to measure what works in our favor for now and future happiness.

Forgiving takes a generous heart and mental strength. In addition, trust broken will always has a crack. It is up to both you and him to rebuild what’s lost and gone all over as long as you are willing. Comparing only makes one feel in doubt. Trust yourself more as your worse half (not better half as he cheated) decided to come back to you ultimately. You are the final winner.