I am 25 and my husband is 26. We have 2 kids. He’s very VERY touchy.

Cuddles me all night long. He cuddles me all morning.

When he gets home from work he sits on the couch and cuddles me. This I don’t mind, I actually love it. His touching can become, not so innocent sometimes. He touches my butt quite a bit too. He’ll rub it, squeeze it, or smack it.

I don’t mind when he touches my butt, but our children are getting to an age where I think it’s inappropriate to do this in front of them. They are comprehending what they see, yet won’t understand why he’s touching me like that.

They are too old to not know what’s happening but not old enough to understand that him touching me like that is something only mommies and daddies should do. I also think him smacking my butt in front of them is really also something they shouldn’t be seeing, for similar reasons. I’ll just be making dinner or something and he’ll come behind me and slap it. I don’t mind at all when we are in private, though.

I told him that i don’t think he should be doing that in front of our children anymore because they’re getting too old to not know whats going on . He said ok, but just started doing it again anyway. I asked him why he disrespected me by lying to my face and he said him touching my butt is his way of showing his love to me. He’s not wrong, but I told him he can show all that love at night when we’re in bed and where our children can’t see. He didn’t like this. I said he has all night. He has my consent to touch it if I’m asleep, and my consent to touch or smack it if I’m awake.

He did this for a day then while our kids were eating he smacked my butt again. If he apologized I would’ve let him off the hook. He didn’t. He said he’s not going to let me stop him from doing what he loves. Ok I’m not gonna lie, I really wanted to laugh but I kept a straight face. I said if he disrespects me again, I won’t even let him do that in bed.

He ignored me again and an hour later squeezed it right in front of our son. I told him off, and said he’s sleeping on the couch tonight. I’ve never made him sleep on the couch, and he’s telling me he can’t sleep without cuddling me. He’s begging me to let him sleep in our bed. I said no. I said I begged him to not be disrespectful and here we are. It’s now 1:30am and he’s texting me from downstairs, begging me to let him back.

I know I’m being harsh, he’s a huge cuddler, but I’m not going to take that disrespect.