I’m relatively new at posting, hope I do this right! Fake names, approx. ages for privacy.

Background: My husband “Dan” (M26) & I (F26)

So, a lot of crap has been building up & I feel like everything hit the fan last night. My husband is the worst at following through. He says he’ll replace the battery in the smoke alarm; he just took it down.

The only light in the house has been blown out for over a week, which makes it hard to see to do laundry (same space). After my repeated asking, he finally took the larger decorations & totes I can’t lift out of storage…but now they’ve been sitting unmoved for over two week.

There’s more examples, but you get the idea. I can’t get him to follow through & finish any task w/o “wanting to take a break” halfway through & leaving it for good.

Anyway, I handle the majority of emotional & physical labor for our family. I handle the children’s school things, events, teacher communications, etc. I handle the baby’s feedings & I’m the only one to ever have given him a bath in his life. I cook dinner, I handle most of the grocery shopping because he always buys the wrong things or gets the more expensive version we can’t afford. I’ve asked him to help with the baby at night ONE TIME because I was so exhausted (this past weekend) and he talked about how late the baby kept him up & how he had to get up 3 times all. damn. day. & how he was SO tired.

We took the kids to festivals this weekend. I told him to stay home because he was so passive-aggressive, I really didn’t want him to spoil it with his attitude. He insisted on coming & after I begged him 3 times to stop making snide comments about me not letting him finish the football game (that I told him to stay home for), he finally stopped.

Anyway, after 2 packed weekend days of family activities & household responsibilities, I was EXHAUSTED. The baby was so cranky & the 8 yo was acting out. I did the bedtime routine, got school stuff ready, took a shower, & laid down. My husband said he was going to stay up and play video games & watch the sports highlights he missed. Since he said he was going to be up until 12:30 or so, I asked him if he would mind picking up a little bit in the kitchen & dining room. It wasn’t a lot, mind you, but a majority of it was empty water bottles & soda cans he left, food waste he left, trash overflowing in the can, & clothes/his costume he ripped off & left in the floor.

Immediately, he rolled his eyes, complaining that he was “so sick of cleaning” & “my asking him made him not even want to play video games anymore & just go to bed.” Reddit, I freaking snapped, I yelled that if he wanted to back to living like he had no responsibilities, he was more than welcome to go back to his momma’s house & let her take care of him. We stopped talking & he ignored me in person this am but then sent a text saying he loved me. IDK what to do or if I overreacted because I was tired. AITA?