I found out my fiancé is using a dating site

I was sitting next to him helping him fill in some information for a job he was applying to. He was looking through his emails to find a specific document he had received and when I looked at his screen I saw numerous mails from a dating site.

Right now I’m in the bathroom and about to take a shower. I looked up the dating site and it is a legit one.

When I glanced at his phone screen I saw emails such as “new matches” and “You have received x new messages”. So this means he is actively talking to other women.

I’m not sure what to do. I want to confront him but at the same time I wish I had never seen anything. This hurts so much.

Right now I never want to exit the bathroom.

Update:

So I spoke to him and he said “oh I don’t know how they got there” and together we looked through his email and I saw that his confirmation email (for when he signed up to the dating site) was the 28th of August of this year. Which is recent.

He kept denying it and became very angry and defensive about it. So the talk didn’t go that well. It pretty much ended with me apologising to him, which is pathetic I know.

Netizens’ comments

Throughout a year long, “exclusive” relationship with a guy, I had often caught him actively on dating sites. Whenever I confronted him, he turned it on me. Listen to me — leave him. This will not change, I promise you. He is not committed to you and you are wasting your time.

I would just leave and cut contact. Send a text saying he’ll have more time to talk to his matches. F him.

I will say I still actively get emails about matches and messages from dating apps I haven’t used in over 3 years. The best thing you can do is talk to him. Communication. Is. Everything.

How can you not address this? Hey! You asked for my help and I clearly saw emails from a dating site that said you had new matches. That’s it. That starts your conversation.

Don’t take this as gossipal but talk to him I get alot of emails saying I have matches and messages and I havnt used any dating sites apart from tinder 2 years ago but the otherside is I don’t know if someone has used my email to sign up or if its spam iv just ignored them all tbh sorry I can’t be of more help