Is it too much to ask for if I requested my future partner to have same earning as me?

I’m a 28 y/o full time working adult. Working since 21, did my part time degree in between. Currently earning 3.8-4K per month.

I ended my first relationship due to my partner was lack of financial managing ability. He spurs every single cent he earn. And he don’t believe in saving for rainy day. He don’t believe in education as well, and he thinks that degree is just a piece of paper. He’s earning 1.6k when we’re still in relationship. He’s very stubborn, he thinks that 1.6k is enough to start a family, so I decide to cut him off from my life for good.

Met 2nd guy, went out for couple of dates. He’s quite decent, but he’s quite reluctant to pursue further studies as well. He’s 34 this year already, but his job title is some assistant sort of, and he’s earning 2.6k per month. He only start work at age of 28 and sky knows what he did before that age. Btw, he’s just a diploma holder. He cut me off once I mention about how his low income might affect our future relationship.

Reason, why I take education so seriously, is because, society only recognise certification nowadays. And further studies is to keep yourself competitive and relevant in the industry. And qualifications is directly linked to your remuneration and promotions.

The fundamental of building a family is money. And to have better income, education is the fastest way to do it. That’s how I see it.

Is it too much to ask your partner to match your income? Or ask them to further study for a better job and income?

Here are what netizens think:

If earning in a certain income range is your thing, then it’s your thing. But don’t date a guy in a lower income range then demand he gets a better job or further his studies. He’s simply not compatible with your requirements. Find someone who is.

Money is very important in a marriage especially after having kids. Love alone cannot sustain. You’re very far sighted and that is a good thing. Your expectation of finding someone with similar income range as you is not unreasonable. But maybe forcing someone to go further studies may be a little too much. When you find the right one you wont have such problem. All the best.

Does he spend within his means? Thats crucial. Is he willing to spend time and upgrade himself to be marketable and earn decent enough to start a family and kids with quality life? Thats crucial too.

I think the same as you, I am your age and earn twice your salary. We are not a good fit.