WOMAN HANGS OUT WITH FRIEND WHO IS 20 YEARS OLDER, AFRAID OF BEING JUDGED BY PEOPLE
Singapore Uncensored·2024-04-17 12:04
Do you find it weird for people of huge age gap + opp. gender to hang out as friends?
I (late 20s,F) met a friend (lat 40s,M) by chance and turned out we share some similar hobbies and interests, so we hang out ~once a week for couple hours to do art and play sports tgt.
Overall a kind, humble, easy-going person, although he seems to be quite lonely as he doesn’t really have anyone to hang out with. We usually just have meals tgt after we hang out.
I noticed that when we chat or have meals outside, ppl around tend to look at us. (Think curious,kepo, like what kind of relationship are they having kind of look). Maybe it makes ppl curious since he’s of different race and rlly looks much older than me.
So this situation makes me quite uncomfortable at times. I feel like being judged by ppl. I thought of inviting a few more friends to hang out tgt as a small group but unfortunately most of my friends don’t share similar interests so that option is out :/
So I’m asking here hoping to get you guys opinions on my situation.
Tq 🙂
Edit: if I’m being completely honest, sometimes I feel a bit uncomfortable cuz he’s single and nv really had any success in pursuing women or chance with dating. But ofc he ardy knew from the start that I’m in a long committed rs. So yea the friendship is completely platonic.
It’s only weird if you make it weird.
Not worth it to throw away a friend you care for (as long as it’s a healthy friendship) over judgements made by strangers. People are always gonna judge, even on the most random thing…
If he is a good friend, be proud of your friendship. Otherwise you will end up sobataging it.
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Astro KW 22/04/2024
It should be a non issue, what others think! 😏 Most Romantic relationship also starts from Friendship!
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Userkepw 21/04/2024
U cant stop ppl from talking. Let them think n say what they like.
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Don Quan 21/04/2024
everyone is free to mix and mingle who is there to judge and make decisions this is a democratic place are living in
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kktk 21/04/2024
and at the end of the day we can answer to ourselves and make sure we are able to get along and by without having to answer to whoever who do not understand the situation and circumstances
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就你啦! 22/04/2024
You are judging yourself so what's the big deal!
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