WOMAN SEEKING HELP AS HER PARENTS ARE FORCING HER INTO AN ARRANGED MARRIAGE
In my (20f) culture arranged marriages are very normal, 3 months ago.
I met a guy through my mother, and after the second meeting, my parents agreed to the marriage without even asking me first.
Whenever i told anybody at that time that I wanted to end it they would tell me to give him a chance, so i did just that because of either way i couldn’t tend it straight away.
Now 3 months later I absolutely hate him, I came to realize that he is a master manipulator, and whenever i talk to my mother we get into a huge fight that usually ends terribly.
Today I tried talking to my father and it did not end well, he says that my reasons to end things are very trivial and not the things that would break or make a relationship, I am now considering ending it personally, but the problem is i could shame both my parents if i do it.
How should I proceed from here?
if i stopped my forced arranged marriage which could lead to embarrassing my father??
Do it as an investment, divorce take his money and run away.
It’s your life, you were never given a choice when you are born to this world, but I think you should at least have the choice of choosing your life.
Tell your father straight to the face if they force it, you will end it. So don’t bother wasting everyone’s time.
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Ian Dian 23/03/2024
That's bad to be in this situation as your parents have agreed to the marriage without your permission. You are young and mature enough to take decision. If your parents doesn't understand if you need time then you must talk to the guy.
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