Debt issues

I knew a guy online 5 yrs back and we started a LDR. Fast forward a few months later, he kept borrowing money from me.

I knew he wasn’t the most decent person and had a bad past, but i am willing to accept the changed person. And of course, fearing a love scam, I got him to sign IOUs before borrowing money, till a point I got tired of signing and did an excel sheet instead.

The amount snowballed quickly to $50k and grew to a point that I exhausted my liquid savings and had to put a stop to it. We ended the relationship and made an agreement for him to pay back on a monthly basis interest free. He did it for a while but on an off he would disappear.

I had to keep chasing and texting and it was taking a toll o my mental health. It was then i decided that maybe a debt collector will be better and contacted a company. They are willing to take my case as an overseas assignment and assured me it will be ok.

Then they took a $5k as the fee to take on this case and covid storm happened. For the next 3 years I was in touch w this managing director but he kept putting me off saying he is trying n trying.. until recently he disappeared. I contacted the main company and realise he was not with the company since 1 yr ago.

Now the company just ask me to make a police report against him.

Felt very suay that my worst fears all came true and not sure how I should proceed from here.