Seeking advice and opinions!

My boyfriend and I am in an LDR for 6 months in already.

He is currently working overseas in New Zealand. Before he left, he lent me his laptop so that I can use for my own needs, as my current laptop is spoilt.

I started to have this habit of logging on to his emails and WhatsApp chat every day on his laptop to look at his mails, his texts and who he is chatting with. When I am free and miss him, I would scroll through his past chats with his friends back to the period before we started dating.

I came to understand about his past habits such as always going for massages, drinks and clubbing (from what I know he does not do these now since we started dating), and also knew about one of his flings with a girl he met online. I actually feel bad for snooping in on his chats but I felt that it made me know more about how he was in the past. I would say currently in our rs, he does not have red flags.

He always update me about his whereabouts, even when he goes to drink with his friends. I also corroborated with the text he sent one of his friend when they were meeting for a drink, and confirmed that he did update me the same day that he is going for a drink with that friend.

I do get a bit insecure sometimes, when seeing his text with one of the girls at his work (sharing food spots and also her updating him about her test results), but he did tell me stories about this girl (her issues at work etc) when we call each other.

Overall, I feel that its not right for me to snoop in on his texts but then I just cannot control the urge to keep myself updated with his personal life. Haish.

Here are what netizens think:

You are asking for trouble by snooping in on his chat. I don’t think you feel much better off after you read his past messages. You are worst off and feel more insecure. Do you feel good if he see your past messages.You need to learn fast on what is “respect” before he throws you out.

The fact that he passes u his laptop to use, shows his trust in u. If u digged into his past without his knowledge, u are betraying tat trust. Besides what’s good for u to know abt his past? Will it improve your relationship? Dun bite off more than u can chew, honestly certain things are best left as it is. The future is more important, past is past.

Girl. This is call kaypoh. Very common for us ladies.But then again 6mths of LDR is not that long.Hope the curiosity doesn’t kill the cat! All the best!