Ex husband came back after years still living happily.

ex-husband Singaporean Chinese

Myself Singaporean Chinese

Since my 2nd girl was born 10 years ago and we had a divorce as he had a mistress outside. Thereafter he never give a cent to the family and went mia for years. Uncontactable even his parent can’t contact him.

I have to raise the 2 kids all by myself with some help from his parent.

Now he was back to visit his parent and sometime will bring the kids out. Knowing that he drove a bmw and had a pretty gf and had an adorable dog now. So I requested maintenance like $300-$500 for both the kids, he agreed. After 3 months, he stopped giving. He will give a kind of excuses and went mia again.

What should I do?

I only have his hp number but not address. I only know he stayed with his gf. If I apply for legal action, letter will go to his parent address, I do not want to bother them as they had contributed enough. All the driving fines he got all send to his parent address, and they will just pay for him. I seem no way to do anything.

How should I go about taking action toward him?

Here are what netizens think:

$300-$500 for someone who drives a BMW? U are too kind. The man should take responsibility and bear the consequnces for his actions, for the marriage, for you and for the children for the rest of his life. So YES u should pursue the matter and seek advise from relevant authorities.

As per your mentioned; “Since my 2nd girl was born 10 years ago and we had a divorce…”, that means it has been 10 years after the divorce, without any contact, without any finacial support from him. So if it was for me, I will just let it slide. No point. Moreover, if he is driving a BMW, and he also can MIA and stopped giving after a few months, don’t waste time with this ex-husband of yours, unless you got lots of time, energy & money to file a lawsuit to go after his neck. On a sidenote, I won’t ask only $300-$500 from him if I know he is driving a BMW now. I would have asked for $1000-$1500. So if now $300-$500 also he can’t commit to it, then just move on… continue to do what you’ve been doing without him in your life. Take care. And all the best.

Hi sis, just let him be. You have done a fantastic job of raising the kids single handedly. No need for him to be in the picture now. Keep doing your thing and dun expect anything from him. Whatever and whenever he give its a bonus. Yes if u want to ask him to provide than file a petition with family Court. He will be asked to appear. After all he is the father to the children. But the process can be emotionally and mentally draining. See if u need that kind of stress now. Just my 2 cents worth.