Is it normal having a crush on your colleague/boss?

I’ve been married for many years now, living with my husband. Life has been smooth sailing but rather routined and we have no kids for now.

Just recently came a restructure at work and i was being sent to another team reporting to a new boss. My boss is the eye candy of the company -very tall and good-looking and not married (but attached). When he just joined our company, many of the ladies were commenting about how good looking he is and also the fact that there not many guys in my company.

I had a very good impression of him all these while as he is always being helpful at work even being at management level. He is also always polite and very positive.

I didn’t expect having given the opportunity to work with him, and to be honest i was really glad to be under his reporting.

We are now working very closely together and having many work travel opportunities. I find myself confiding to him on many personal issues during trips and during meal conversations. Sometimes speaking to him just made me feel like butterflies in my stomach. And we can resonate so much on my topics at work or be it many other topics of interest. He is always complimenting me at work and showing concern about me. He even remembers my birthday and ask me out for meal after I joined his team. I am not sure if that is normal or it is just because he is doing it out of concern as my boss. He always come round my desk for small talks and asking for after work drinks.

I hated this feeling as I’ve realised am being to take interest in his every actions and words. The feeling is so much stronger than I feel for my husband and it felt this is so so wrong. Sometimes, i can be thinking about what my boss said to me at work or occasionally i can just recall a funny joke that we talked about at work.

This seems like a warning sign and i am getting to close to my boss.

As I am just rather new in the team, and it is a great opportunity of growth for my career, i don’t know if i should distance away from my boss right now or it could just be a one-sided crush on my end.

Any advice/s would be appreciated. Really confuse of my feelings towards my boss and i really hated it.