He shamed me after taking my virginity.

17 days ago I (20F) lost my virginity to a friend (20M) in my circle. It was not a bright idea, but he was very close with some trusted people so I assumed he could be trusted for something as delicate as my first experience.

After hooking up he ghosted me, didnt even Wish me Happy birthday a few days later and totally ignored me in the groupchat.

Yesterday I saw him at a party he had hosted and he ignored me the whole night while flirting with my friend in front of me.

She immediately told me that when she asked him about me he told her that It annoyed him that “I had a bush down there” which he didnt like on women and i could have shaved since It was my First Time.

I was absolutely mortified, since It was not even a bush but barely regrowth on the lips that are kinda hard to get, and i had never gotten such comments from any guy i had done stuff with before.

It was so insensitive and the fact that he would say that to my own friend made me wonder just how many people he lied to and shamed me with, sharing such intimate details and being so inconsiderate after my first time.

Im planning on never seeing him again of course, but how can I feel better about this shitty first experience? (PS my friend ended up leaving and not giving him the time of day since she was disgusted by his behaviour).

Netizens’ comments

He sounds immature. There are all kinds of bad people out there. Any friend worth having is not going to put any stock in intimate details he’s trying to share ie your friend that blew him off. At the end of the day just try to focus on what you can control. Sorry this happened to you.

Your other friend is solid, but that guy…oof. He’s in for a rude awakening if he thinks that every woman is going to cater to his expectations. I also couldn’t imagine sharing intimate details like that, especially in a mutual group.

Hey I am really sorry you have to remember this a-hole as your first. You deserve so much more. That attitude is mind-bogglong to me. Please don’t feel ashamed and don’t feel regret. Whatever happened happened, it was not on you and now you have a whole life of awesome sexual experiences to look forward to 🙂